Teen Communication: Parenting Is About Saying The Right Words

How Teens Normally Communicate

Teens normally come to their parents when they need to talk. Be patient. Listen. It's difficult to listen when we, as parents, are in the habit of being in charge, providing direction and literally holding their hands. But, they are not six years old anymore...they are teens! This ScottCounseling article provides simple, but effective points to consider while communicating with your teen.

• Your teen may appear to be rude, in a hurry or cut you short. This is not their intention. Be patient.

• Teens are not adults. You may from time to time have an adult conversation with your teen. Treasure this moment! Don’t expect it all the time.

• Teens often are more comfortable talking to their friends or peers than they are talking to adults; especially their parents. Again, nothing against you mom or dad, but kids their age are more fun to talk with. Be patient.

• Moody teens will avoid conversations with you. Happy teens may talk your ears off. You may have to listen, nod your head and smile. Be patient.

• Use open-ended questions like, "Hey, science class today...the lab?"

• Avoid overreacting to communication that your teen is sharing. Yes, parenting can be emotional because you love your child. But, displaying an emotional outburst often shuts the conversation down.

• Be genuine. While you are conversing with your teen, be sincere, look your teen in the eyes and display honest interest.

• No matter how you conversation goes (Good or bad), end with, "I love you."